7 Things A Narcissist Will Say to Lower Your Self-Esteem | They Often Hurt You At Your Weakest Spot

7 Things A Narcissist Will Say to Lower Your Self-Esteem | They Often Hurt You At Your Weakest Spot

One aspect of a narcissist's personality is to put others down to make themselves feel better and always have the upper hand.

We may have come across a narcissist at some point in our lives, and it is likely that the interaction was in bad taste. Narcissists are often mistaken for those who take a lot of selfies and love to look at themselves. But real narcissists, according to Healthline, are those people who have an "inflated sense of importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, lack of empathy for others, and often have troubled relationships." Extreme narcissism is actually a mental health condition known as narcissistic personality disorder or NPD. Being with a narcissist, romantically, or even just as a friend, can be emotionally draining and take a toll on you.

It is a part of their personality to put others down to make themselves feel better. Narcissists tend to feel threatened by others and have a desperate need to always have the upper hand. In the process, they will say things to destroy the self-confidence of those around them. These are some of the common things they may say to have their way and it is best for you to not take it seriously, as hard as it can be.

1.  "There you go again, always complaining"

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You can never get a straight apology from a narcissist who thinks they can do no wrong. They will say hurtful things to you and when you decide to confront them about it, they will brush it off. What's more, they may try to turn it on you. They will twist your words and may even succeed in making you look like the bad guy. They will gaslight you into thinking you are the one overreacting and the one at fault, not them. Once they have you questioning your reality, they will guilt you into taking the fall and responsibility for something they did wrong.

2. "Who'd believe you?"

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Narcissists are good at fabricating realities to suit their whims and fancies. They have a way with words and can do it with anyone. They will try to discredit you in front of others you spend time with. They will make themselves the victim of all the stories and make you out to be someone no one can trust. They will try to alienate you from your circle of friends so they can have more power over you. This could be very detrimental to you if the people in your life you trust and care about fall for their lies. You can't blame them. Unless they already know that a person has NPD, it is really easy to fall for their charm.

3. "You're way too insecure."

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If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, chances are they are always flirting with anyone who shows interest in them. Narcissists thrive when they get attention. So if they have an inkling of someone finding them attractive, they will indulge them. They may also be doing this to catch your reaction and indicate to you that it's not easy to keep them to yourself. That you have to work harder for their attention. You could exhaust yourself trying to do this and trying to please them. And when you do confront them about their flirtatious ways, they will make you feel small by calling you insecure. 

4. "No one else could ever love you the way I do."

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If you decide that you are done with the narcissist in your life and want to walk away this is one thing they will say to implore you to stay. They will always know the right thing to say to make you rethink your decision. They will remember minor details from all points of your relationship and then try to use them against you. They live for the attention you give them and cannot do without it. Narcissists need you to make themselves feel better and without you, they will have no support for their skewed perception of self. But take this is a sign and leave while you can. 

5. "You're crazy!"

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Narcissists will blame everyone around them and deflect responsibility. They will vehemently deny any wrongdoing and always hold someone else responsible for their actions. They will try their best to place the blame on you and question your own credibility. They will project their own actions on you. A narcissist will accuse you of all the things they are doing which could include lying, cheating, manipulating, and overreacting to a situation. When you try to point it out to them, they will make you out to be the bad guy. 

6. "It's always about you, isn't it?" 

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Despite knowing narcissists always make everything about themselves, they will accuse you of being self-centered. If you try to share your problems, struggles, or issues with them, and they have no way to benefit from it, they will make you feel bad for sharing with them. Narcissists lack empathy for others and if they have to spend their energy to help another person with nothing in it for them, they will lash out. They will not invest in others at the cost of not being able to make it about themselves.

7. "You're just being too sensitive."

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When you express the hurt caused by a narcissist either with their words or actions, they will deny it. They do not think they can do any wrong and will then turn it on you and call you sensitive for only having a normal reaction to the situation. Especially when they are in a bad light. They will act like the victim and try to make themselves the center of attention again. They will act entitled to being given multiple chances despite not attempting to make up for their misbehavior. If they do not go to therapy, all you can do is walk away.

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